Wednesday, December 14, 2016

College Mom

Four months ago, I wrote a post called “A Single Mother’s Joy”. I talked about my struggles in balancing my schedule and admitted my relationship with God was not where I want it to be. I am a mother and that task will always challenge you, disappoint you, scare you and have you second-guessing yourself.  Add single parent to the mix, and all those things double! Although I am raising my son without any help from his father, I have been greatly blessed with much support from my side of the family and my friends, as well as family members from my son’s father side of the family. If this new life role isn’t already exhausting and challenging, try being a single mother who’s in a college.
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It’s been some years since I last attended college. I struggled both times (two different schools). If I were pregnant during that time of my life…just the initial thought sends an overwhelming feeling through me. My mind frame back then was in a completely different state compared to where it is now. I know I would have quickly withdrew the first time around if I got pregnant my first year of college. I honestly don’t believe there are enough groups for single mothers. Either they’re deeply hidden and you must thoroughly search for them, or people don’t promote them enough. There are a lot of resources available for single mothers but you literally must dig up the information and then you need understand how the system works. I know many women who attended college while being a single mother and I always thought, “How are they able to do that? Where do they find the time?” When I learned some of these women had jobs as well, I thought they were crazy! Many years later I would become a single mother and would experience some of the exact obstacles and frustrations as those single mothers in college.
How many women actually plan to be a single parent? I have read or heard of the stories of career-driven women who aren’t in relationships and/or don’t want a husband but would like to have kids. I heard of a doctor from a well-known hospital who became pregnant with twins through VETRO. So, some women do plan for that life, but majority of women who are single parents were either abandoned by their child’s father or things didn’t work out when they were together or the mother had a divorce or became an unexpected widow. For the percentage that I fall into as well as single mothers in college, we didn’t plan on raising our children without the help of the person who helped conceived. This was not our life’s goal. If someone told me 3 years ago, that I’d be unmarried and single with a child, I would have laughed right in their face. I knew what goals and standards I set for myself and this was not it. Unfortunately, life happens. If we don’t stay focused and keep our feet and mind grounded in the things that we believe in, we can easily become misguided and lose focus and get caught up.
The journey of being a single mother is very hard, tiring, challenging and overwhelming but the outcome of the reward is well-deserved and completely worth it! So, whether you’re a single mother who’s in college or just a single mother who is working, I want you to know that you can do it! You can succeed at both. Once you have a plan and goals outlined, stay committed to them. It will all work out for you. It will be an adjustment and you may not get it right in the beginning, but overtime, you will recognize your growth.


Cheers to all the single mothers who are out there progressing!!!

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